A Western Peaceful Society:Is it Possible?

By Aurore Adamkiewicz ND

Recently I was asked what a woman should do with a son that was four and hitting and kicking children at school. The Mother felt that the child was upset about something going on in the home and was in my own view, over intellectualizing the child's behavior. In my first response I told her that the child was going through a normal phase, although society and the educational system will not recognize it and will do everything to change it-forcefully. I advised the Mother to have the child hit and kick inanimate objects in the home and the Mother commencing the Holding techniques as outlined in Dr. Martha Welch's book "Holding Time"(This is not RAD therapy!! Please see my other blog on this).

Shortly thereafter the woman contacted me and said the child was having a hard time distinguishing between humans and objects and that she was now implementing the Buddhist teaching on aggression as stated here:

"Say hello to aggression and identify it but then focus on a happier vibe rather then channeling it into hitting. If you give aggression enough air time and hit, you help it grow rather then moving onto "more productive" emotions."

The following is my response to this ideology and it's effectiveness in changing the very real human emotion of "anger".

The Tibetan people that run the Buddhist centers here by my home are by far the most kindest, generous people I have met.

The Buddhist Temples though can become (Sometimes) a "safe" haven or escape for angry Americans and ritually repressed individuals that like the teachings of Buddha, but inevitably find themselves "going" through the motions. For some it creates a sort of religious schizophrenia; where people cut themselves emotionally off in several realms which can also lead to chronic lying or severe personality disassociation. This is not unique to Buddhism but every religion can create this effect. A chronic reason for this disassociation is and inability of followers to connect to the heart and attempt to live out God only in their heads.

While visiting a Church several months ago I became acutely aware of all the children around me. Children under seven were being constantly reprimanded and told to "be good" in Church and forced to sit still and numb for over an hour. I became more innerviated when I saw a group of small children about 5 brought up to the altar to pray and give a litany, many of these children were mispronouncing words and someone was standing behind them telling them what to say. While the Church audience chuckled, I did not. I tell this story to relate, every person in every religion would do well to examine their beliefs and how they effect children.

There is an important difference between Western Buddhist converts and Tibetan Buddhists that I'll state here: The Tibetans are raised in a community-which is unlike anything us Westerners understand. They do not have a belief in a blood thirsty god following their every move or hiding inside their psyche somewhere-They are a perfect example of communal living at its best-

They are true pacifists and for sake of religious association-true Christians in terms of pacifism and understanding, except for the reliance on the male hierarchy in many of the sects, which is something that Christ was trying to change...

But even a male "higher"archy can be liberating if the women are treated with honor and are given sexual freedom and genital acceptance.

For some Westerners-Eastern beliefs like other religious ideology can become contractful mechanical, ahrimanic (Steiner's term) a way to go through the motions and attempt to hide their true thoughts and feelings-it can be fluffy and insincere for many individuals (not all). Then there are those who make it very rigid and legalistic which then makes it indistinguishable from other more harsher and broken forms of patriarchal religion.

I assume that true Buddhist colonies create a society somewhat like the peaceful Trobriand Islanders in Malinowski's book "The Sexual Life of Savages". Wilhelm Reich worked with Malinowski's research to form his comparisons of Western Society and tribal societies .

The United States, especially, is a very violent place- behold,a typical first year for most American babies (not every American baby), a numb and drugged childbirth in an unnatural hospital environment with cold, non-feeling doctors and numb nurses poking them and prodding new born babies, non breastfed babies exposed to plastic neurotoxins and even the baby's that are breast fed may have a direct experience with a Mother who has severe genital and breast anxiety and sex shame. American baby's are more times than not removed from the womb with knives and other mechanical, harsh equipment, male children are routinely genitally mutilated, babies are then placed in plastic baby swings, cribs, and carriers, many left to cry, put in front of the TV, held down and tortured countless times by strangers injecting them with poisons and disease..finally, a good many graduate to "baby schools" which are day cares run by care givers that are being paid to do the job that the birth Mother won't.....adding to the youth circle of distress is the horrible treatment that the elderly receive in American society.

Many are left to wait out the end of their life in adult "day cares" where they are given poor quality food and water but strangely, the harsh clinical setting is profoundly hidden behind beautiful and immaculate architectural surroundings-

Welcome to this cement and plastic world that we Westerner's call home and try desperately to mentally and physically escape from but often that attempt to escape leads us from treadmill to treadmill that goes no where...and leads us right back to where we started-emotionally and physically disconnected from the Whole-the Mother.

When one meets someone from Tibet- it is clear that they have something we don't..something we want but unfortunately-this may have a small part to do with religion but everything to do with a safe passage onto the earth plane and a Mother that loved them and accepted them unconditionally.

Now, in regards to a child, who cannot distinguish-or rather-prefers to hit humans rather than objects-

This can be easily remedied with a daily holding time time routine as prescribed by Dr. Welch to sort through pent up emotions please read my other article on this-this is NOT THE SAME THING AS RAD therapy-which is harmful to children. The Mother needs to also ACTIVELY invest a few minutes each day-helping the child release pent up aggression-if it needs to be done before school-well, then it needs to be done. The idea of thinking what they are angry about and physically hitting it out is what Reich taught was necessary and what makes Orgonomy different from every other new age or religious teaching. It is unrealistic to think that getting your anger out leads to "more anger" as stated in the previous quotes-anger is a human emotion-period.

There are people who create feel good ideology without going deeper these beliefs can be idealistic, unattainable, and induce guilt when the attempt to recreate them fails. These people are "Dr. Philling us"...they are literally trying to "Phil" us up with superficial ideology and emotionally break us down. In the end we will feel like emotional weirdos and they feel like Gurus. Thinking happy thoughts may delay emotion-but it does not physically remove the very human and necessary emotion of anger.

For myself, I realize that any of the amazing feats I have accomplished in my life were contrived and ultimately completed in anger and love (whether I choose to recognize it as anger or hide it under the word love). My home birth was a result of my anger towards the hospital and the birth injury my first child received at the hands of the white coats, of course, there was also a love for humanity and my unborn child mixed in that recipe as well.

Anger which is continually thwarted and hopelessly changed to "happy thoughts" will eventually rear it's ugly head- either in the rebellious teenage years- or the 18 year old mark where most mental illness become unrelenting reality for an unprecidented number of Americans. The solution therefore is to seek out happy pill, anti anxiety-drugs-legal or illegal-to suppress and hide feelings.

Hence, the circle of karma.....

I recommend these books;

Beyond Natural Cures by Aurore Adamkiewicz, ND (wink)

Demeo, James, Dr. (1998). Saharasia.

Ashland: Natural Energy Works.

Welch, Martha G. Dr. (1988). Holding time.

New York : Simon and Schuster.

Reich, Wilhelm. (1983). Children of the future.

Toronto: McGraw-Hill Ryerson, Ltd