How We Contribute to Illness in Our Lives: A Perspective on Mental Illness" By: Aurore Adamkiewicz, ND

The essence and beginning of mental illness is when someone gets sick or starts to "Lose it" psychologically and all of the people they love and trust start lying to them and stroking their ego and the person falling into mental illness in the form of paranoia or dillusionment gets worse and worse-looses grip, and the next thing you know-the person you loved or befriended is "gone." Of course this process takes years and years-but a good part of it is that many of us are afraid to speak the truth, so we ignore the behavior or the bizarre symptoms-what are we really afraid of?

Confrontation-Anger-Emotional Contact-our own mental illness

(See Reich's book "Character Analysis" or Baker's book "Man In the Trap"*)

I am not saying there is not a very real chemical imbalance and/or mind numbing toxins like fluoride and aluminum or mind destroying toxins like arsenic and lead in the brain- but unfortunately, this knowledge of toxicity and detoxing-does not seem to do enough to pull the sick person through a illness that is HIGHLY psychosomatic and truly linked to the emotional body.
A true friend gives the truth in love-
This is what happened with Christ- he curses and swears at people and injustices; calling people vipers, liars, and hypocrites (Matt 23:13-39)- and let people know the truth,
and yet he was fully and completely able to reach out and love them too (Matt 13:14,15). In both instances he was showing a full range of human emotion, hatred for sin and love of humanity, never once contracting-always expanding in truth...even at the loss of his friends and life, as made evidence at the garden of Gethsemane when his closest friends couldn't even stay awake for him and at the liberation of Barabas and His condemnation, where ironically a few days before, the same crowd that wanted to crown him king now turns their back, double crosses him, and remains eerily silent in his defense (Matt 26 and 27).

So, Your Realize Your Loved One is Mentally Ill.....
When you realize your spouse, parent, sibling or child is mentally ill, it is like the emperor's new clothes- everyone else can see it or has had a glimpse but pretends like they don't. The process becomes, instead of healing and wellness; hiding, lying and pretending to protect the mentally ill person. In fact, parents of mentally ill children will go to great lengths to protect or hide the sick children's mental illness for fear of the illness exposing themselves and their perceived parental inadequacies-However, this is fueled by guilt and not "love" as any parent will understandably protest.

I ask you, is lying and deceiving people you care about being a friend? If you are a Christian, is that course of action being a Christian?
Don't doubt yourself or feel like you are talking about someone or judging when you start to realize a person is not "quite right." It is up to you to:

• Live in truth, set an example, and be an honest friend
• Reach out and/or step away, depending on the situation: (You can present them with the truth, perhaps a suggestion and a solution but recognize that the person needs to accept and take control of their own life and they may need some alone time or to "contract" to process the information-in order to hopefully "expand" at some point. Re-evaluate your motives for sticking so close in an unhealthy way, are you co-dependent? Are you apart of their sickness too? Don't be afraid to seek your own truth in a situation.
• Pray for and encourage your loved ones, even silently from afar, sometimes this is all we can do and maybe a better alternative than sticking close to the person and habitually lying.
• Offer courses of action-don't just state the problem, be prepared to offer a solution. (When offering to "drug" the person-either legally through prescriptions or illegally-spend time thinking whether or not the "band-aid" of pharmaceuticals will effectively remove the core of mental illness-it should be noted that the majority of anti-depressive drugs contain heavy metals as inactive ingredients and fluoride/aluminum as an active ingredient which not only stores is the brain but renders its host emotionally numb and further from emotional contact-see my book "Beyond Natural Cures")

In closing, we all know someone close to us that is emotionally suffering-it could even be us, furthermore, we are all to some degree mentally and emotionally "crippled" in some way as a result of growing up in a TV/daycare nation where are parents instead of setting examples and reaching out to their offspring left our emotional welfare to media and "others." With that being said, we can also check ourselves continually making sure we are walking in truth and not dillusionment not letting that be a hinderance but a way to connect to others; being a friend to others and speaking the truth in love.

I leave you with this Bible verse where Jesus quotes Isaiah:

" You shall indeed hear but never understand, and you shall indeed see but never perceive. For this people's heart has grown dull [even duller with drug use], and their ears are heavy of hearing and their eyes they have closed, lest they should percieve with their eyes, and understand with their heart, and turn for me to heal them" (Matt.13:14,15)